When you Walk Along the Way

Just a place to share my thoughts as I seek to serve my husband, raise my children and Glorify my God!

I miss daddy August 26, 2008

Filed under: Raising Children — A Relevant Old Soul @ 2:53 pm

Ok, you sappy people get some Kleenex for this one..LOL.

People often ask how is it that we can go through all these deployments.  I usually have some token answer for them and put my best Military Spouse smile on and give them a peek at my Super Woman costume.  I will not lie, it is very difficult to juggle everything and to be both mom and dad.  This is not new to us.. We are seasoned pros at this whole deployment thing and each time we experience something new and different.

God has been so faithful and blessed us with phenomenal Christian people who truly take care of us when my husband leaves.  I also do not know how those without Christ would be able to survive these multiple deployments. Christ is ONLY way I keep strong!

I can repair things I never wanted to learn how to repair.  I can move heavy items as well as professional movers.  I can fix a sink and toilet.  I can cut the yard, weed eat, and mow.  I can wash the car, vacuum it out, take it to the DMV, check all the fluids.  I can take care of all things military and all things home.  I can take care of all the finances (or lack thereof.LOL) all while still doing my normal “keeper of the home” duties.  But my chaos and juggling all come to a screeching halt when one of my children are sitting quietly and then say.. “Mommy, I miss daddy.”

There is no obstacle so great during a deployment than the emotional wounds of our children.  Having 2 boys, in my opinion, makes it more difficult.  They miss the “male bonding.”  I can see it when they are around other men in our lives and they crave that male stuff.  I can go over and beyond what I normally do for them but I am still not-daddy.  I can throw a ball with them, play soccer and rough house on the living room floor but… I am still not daddy.  Aaron, to some degree, understands what John does and why he does it.  Logan just knows that daddy is “Gone” as it puts it.

Military wives learn quickly how to fix and repair.  We learn how to manage a house as a single mother.  We have no other choice.. But I can not fix or repair the heart of my children.

I say all this to say, if you see a military person, they do not want your thanks.. But their children need them.  Make sure the kids know how special their Daddy is and how important he is to our country.

Of course everything in our home is a “teachable” moment.  I pray that I do an adequate job at being the example of relying on Christ for my strength.  I pray that they understand that although their Earthly father my not always be here.. Their heavenly father will never leave or forsake them!

2Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.3Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. (2Cor 1:2-4)


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